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Peace Of Mind
By Peace | January 6, 2007
Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood. ~ Marie Curie
A stressful mind is a suffering mind. A mind that is not contented will never be happy. A mind that lacks empathy will never be appreciative and thankful for things or people around them.
Nobody would like to fight. Nobody would like to be sad. Everybody would want to be happy rather than sad.
There is obviously no peace when someone has to suffer breakups. There is no peace when a relationship is on the rock. There is no peace when you are living in a home where your parents are constantly fighting and quarreling. There is no peace when you are always living in fear — feeling insecure in life, or feeling unsafe about your possessions or other reasons.
This is a topic which I come about when I was reading some articles submitted by some people in Helium. Achieving peace of mind is something which I hope for. Thus it prompted me to write about too.
Achieving peace of mind
Peace is something that I have always yearned for. I love peace. I used to pray for world peace when I was a little child. I do not like to see my parents quarrel when I was young.
What is peace and how do you know you have peace a not? Have you ever experienced time where your hearts and mind are in turmoil — your hearts beating fast, your mind are ‘packed’, very ‘packed’ with problems. Your hearts are beating fast not because you have just finished exercise. Your hearts are beating fast for it is anxious. You are frustrated, irritated, anxious, perplexed or even annoyed with certain people or events in your life. There is obviously no peace when such things happened, you feel more stress than peace!
Peace is a state of the body whereby both the heart, the body and the mind all are in equilibrium with one another. Everything just synchronize well, and you feel calm and at ease. Peace is a state of inner being. A person who is really in peace will experience peace no matter where he/she goes. You can feel peaceful even if you are in a noisy restaurant. You can feel peaceful too when you are traveling on a bumpy ride.
To achieve peace, you have to practice self-control. You have to open up your mind, you have to learn to view things from a different angle. The first step in achieving peace is to learn to accept, accept people around you — accept the differences in people and accept the nature of things around you. In acceptance of people and things/events around you, you would learn not to blame the people and things around you.
Being contented, thankful and be appreciative of what you have also helps in achieving your peace of mind. A mind that is never contented with any amount of possession is hard to be at peace. Another important trait which you must learn in order to achieve peace is “To Love And To Forgive”. Knowing that we are imperfect human beings, we made mistakes, so do people around us. Though it is hard to forgive, but it is not impossible.
The next tip to achievement of peace of mind is to get your life organized. Unable to cope with everyday life will not lead you to peace of mind. Coping with your everyday life might be balancing your work and personal life. Getting a time table with all the essential time for important tasks scheduled for yourself is a good way to balance your life. Another way of getting your life more organized is to write down all the important things-to-do in your diary or table planner or calendar. In addition, completing your daily important tasks before you ‘play’ is an important rule of the thumb.
Achieving a peace of mind also means that you have no worries for your future. Not only do you need to plan for your everyday schedule, completing important tasks before you can relax and enjoy yourself, you also need to know what you want in future. You need to plan for your retirement needs, you need to plan your wedding with your love ones and so on. Having a peace of mind means you have no worries for baby-sitting — you can go to work peacefully when you entrust your child in the hands of a baby-sitter whom you trust. Having a peace of mind also means that you can leave your home safely when you go for an overseas trip, for vacations or honeymoon. In these above instances, to achieve a peace of mind would require an individual to:
1. Do a proper personal financial planning, paying attention to the retirement income needs. Knowing the amount of retirement income and start saving it from young will ensure a peace of mind — knowing that you can retire comfortably at the kind of lifestyle you plan for.
2. Research on child care centres and baby-sitters. Interviews the baby-sitters and walk-ins to child care centres to access them. (For people who have children)
3. Safe Keeping of your possessions when you intend to go for overseas trips. This includes things like asking the newspaper subscription to be stopped for a few days and entrusting someone to care for your plants and pets.
4. For lovers who intend to get married, their peace of mind would be to find a suitable home and getting all other of their wedding preparation done. This require planning as well.
To sum up, acceptance of people and nature is the basic of achievement of peace of mind. In order to achieve inner peace from within us, we need to learn to love and to forgive, to be contented, thankful and appreciate things around us. The next step to achieving peace of mind is to learn to cope with the tasks and responsibilities of everyday’s life. Not only must we plan for our daily life, we also must plan for our future, with particular emphasize on retirement income (since money is essential for a living). The planning of the future also includes the major events of life such as wedding, graduation, education for your children, upbringing of the children and so on.
Peace of mind is achieved when these qualities come naturally in you — acceptance, contentment, love and forgive; and everyday you when you close your eyes, you know that you have done your best, you have your obligations and tasks fulfilled, you have no anxieties and worries. Your mind, heart and body are in equilibrium.
You cannot forgive when you are angry. It’s alright to be angry. It’s not alright to carry anger around to the point that it interferes with your happiness and peace of mind. Anger keeps you stuck in the past. Your life can’t move forward, never mind live fully in the present when anger gets the better of you.
Learning to love the fact that a great part of who you are today is a product of what you experienced yesterday, as a child, opens the door to allow peace to enter and quietly creep into your heart. Let peace in by striving to understand, accept, and most importantly, forgive any painful memories of childhood. Letting go of the past makes way for the present.
