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It’s All Over
By Peace | March 11, 2007
My greatest wish is to have a happy family. I have not been writing and not been my usual self lately. He seems repentant and He apologised to me. I think acceptance and forgiveness is the answer. Why do I forgive him again?
Reasons For Forgiveness
Why I forgive? Why do I forgive people who let me down again and again? Why do I have to withstand all the anger and let these people ’step’ on me?
I am a mother of two little kids and I am a housewife. Knowing that people are imperfect and that sins are passed down as early as Adam’s and Eve’s time. However, using the excuse of everybody make mistakes does not justify a person to make mistake again and again. The first time a person make mistakes, he should learn from it and never repeat the same thing again. However, this is not the case for many people, be it children or adults. When our love ones made mistakes, we can hardly forgive them. However, after some time, we do forgive them for some reasons. Lets take a look now at some of my reasons for forgiving someone:
1. Love
The first most important and the essential ingredients present in contributing to anyone who is able to forgive anyone would be for love. Imagine a mother and a child. No matter what a child does, the mother will forgive the child. This is because of their love for their child. Similarly, in any relationship, where there is true love, there would be tolerance and kindness. No matter what one party had done any wrong, true love will be able to forgive.
2. Health
It is unhealthy to harbour evil thoughts and to think of revenge. An eye for an eye. A tooth for a tooth. It is natural for people to think of revenge when someone did the wrong thing to us. However, there can never be true happiness when there is thoughts of revenge and killing, hurting all in one man’s mind. Negative thinking like that is unhealthy to the man and in the long term, it may be hurting himself psychologically as well.
A person who harbour the heart of unforgiveness is often feeling angry about someone. Anger is bad for the health. It is bad for the heart especially. A person who is often angry will have higher blood pressure and their mental health is at risk too.
3. Happiness
A vessel cannot keep receiving water. It will soon overflow and all the water will go to waste. It will not be a useful vessel. A vessel that gives and at the same time able to receive is a good vessel. Like the vessel, if the heart keep filling itself with unhappy thoughts and anger, then the heart will forever be heavy and not happy. If a person wants to be happy, he needs to know how to ‘empty’ all the unhappy things in his life. He needs to create rooms for happy events in his life. Filling one’s heart with all the happy and positive things of life would bring more joy and happiness. To make yourself happy, hence it is only logical to ‘throw’ away all the past unhappiness and to forgive those people who have cause any misery to your life, and in this way, one can start a new life again.
4. Carefree
A person who do not forgive will not find freedom. The mind is not free to think clearly and the heart is heavy with all unhappiness and anger. To feel carefree, the heart need to be unloaded first. One must be able to fully forgive those person who done us wrong — forget all the bad things that these people do to us. When we really forgive, we can feel carefree. Feeling carefree is something which goes hand in hand with the peace and happiness.
5. Peace And Harmony
A relationship that harbour evil thoughts and hatred can never be happy. There would be no peace and harmony whenever such people meet together. There will never be happiness. There will only be more hurt, more quarrels and more misery to life. The health is detrimental in such cases as well. Everything cannot go on smoothly. To stop this and to end such misery to our lives, one must know that forgiveness is the only way to have peace and harmony to the relationship again. When there is peace, there is happiness, and there is laughter again.
Lastly, as we often hear what people say, we often ‘do this and do that’ is because ‘WE CARE’. Yes, the reasons for forgiveness, besides those mention above, is because we have a kind heart, a heart that care — a heart that loves and a heart that care and concern for the well-being of people around us.
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It is all over now, is he really changing over a new leaf? Will He make another ‘mistake’? Is it really over now?
The Road to Success
The road to success is not straight
- there is a curve called failure…
- A loop called confusion…
- Speed bumps called friends…
- Red lights called enemies…
- Caution lights called family…
- You will have flats called jobs but…
- If you have a spare called determination…
- An engine called perseverance…
- Insurance called faith…
- A driver called Jesus…
- You will make it to a place called success!
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