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A Shoulder To Cry On
By Peace | March 28, 2007
It is nice, warm and soothing to rest on the shoulder of our man, someone whom we can rely on; someone who can take care of us at appropriate time. But can such man be always there for you to rest as and when you like it? Is there such a man that is so devoted to his love to one woman that he is not tempted at all by other woman — whether for ‘love’ or money. Even if you are resting it for some time doesn’t mean that he is there for you to rely on forever.
No man is an island. It is made such a way that man and woman should unite. Man seeks woman and woman seeking man. Men or women, all want to seek love and be loved. While it is so easy to start a love relationship, it is not easy to maintain it.
Love bring happiness but it is love that also brings pain and suffering. This is a complicated world. Not everything is real love. Some people have ‘love’ for money while some others have ‘love’ for sex. Whichever, we do not know the truth self of a person, as to really understand a person is not easy.
You know your partner, thinking that he/she will be your life time happiness, the two of you can live in marital bliss. But getting married and before marriage is two different stages at all. While many women get married so as to find a partner to be relied on in old age — someone who can look after them when they are old and there is companionship. However, we could see that many of such women might have their dream unfulfilled and all ruined. So many of the women are hurt, betrayed and cheated by their men, sleeping beside them. Can you really depend on your partner for life?
Should you be dependent on your partner
The answer is definitely No! No one should be dependent on anybody in this era especially where relationships are concerned. Our old parents can be dependent on the children but we should not be dependent on our partner unless unforseen circumstances arises (whereby we are unable to function properly such as disable or bed-ridden, diseased, then someone have to look after us. But I am talking about normal spouse and normal partner.
As the chinese always says we have legs and hands. We do not need to depend on our partner. As long as you have your own hands and your own legs, we can also have means to work and have means to support ourselves. We do not need to be “parasites” and stay in our partner ’stomach’ or ‘body’.
After what I had been through and we can always look at statistic as well. How many partners, men or wives cheated on their spouse. How many faithful ones are there? How many cases are there where there is “till death do us part”? Divorce rate is never dropping. Prostitution never halts. Gigolo also exists. Some old man married young girls, thinking their partners will stay with them forever. But in the end, the women left him, taking his money away. We heard too much stories of that. Still we have heard of women cheating married man of their money when they had affair with them. Can the wives of these husband who commited adulteries trust their partners? The same thing applies to the men, who have wives cheating on them. Can you continue to trust them? Can you believe they will change overnight?
Everyone got their dreams and goals to achieve in their lives. If we depend too much on our partner, they would also think you are a nuisance, a good for nothing. There are more disadvantages of depending on your partner than advantages. By depending on your partner, you tend to have no ideas of your own. Soon you have no opinions of yourself and seem meaningless and empty just behaving like a ‘parasite’. Your partner is also a human being. He/She does not like a ‘parasite’ around. He/She needs support from their partner at times.
The correct relationship is one which regards each other as more than just true friend. Not dependent on your partner does not mean that you do not love your partner. Partners still have each other around for support and other activities. They can have their love and respect at the same time. But when it comes to dependent on our partner, it is “No”, not unless you are disable or bedridden one day.
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When I fall down, it is God, Jesus, who help me. I prayed to him and he had carried me. My prayers were answered. That is someone who never fails you. We can rely on him.
