Criticism Deeply Hurt

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By Peace | July 7, 2007

A dog is a dog. A cat will always be a cat no matter which country it is. A dog in Singapore won’t be any much different from another dog in United States. All dogs love to be pampered and taken care of. All dogs have the same behavioural patterns. That goes for human. Whether you are at the North Pole or South Pole. We are of the same species, Homo Sapiens. Can’t we be like the ants? We should learn from the ants. Though they are small, and to people who cannot see the ’small’ things in life, you should read more about ants.

Criticism hurts and it can deeply lower a person’s self-esteem. The purpose of this blog is all my personal experience and my life. It is not a source for ridicule, mockery and scorns. I am sharing my life, my journey and my experience. I am sure there are many similar people out there who wants to seek comfort and answers at time in their life. We always find it more comforting when there are people who are ’same’ as us, when there are people who have the ’same scenario’ or in the same boat as us.

It is nothing glamourous about my life. It is a very ordinary life. I can choose what I want to be and I can choose not to tell anyone about my life. I can choose not to disclose all about my personal life. But I have no fear. I am standing upright and I have my own integrity. Though my husband had done wrong, though he had mistakes, I may hate him at times, but I choose to live with him. I choose to accept him.

As a married couple, there are time where we have disagreements. There are lots of disagreements indeed. We just have different opinions and different attitudes towards working at things. Afterall we are opposite sex and we know that man and woman think differently. That makes matters worse. So many times, I have to put myself in his shoes, and I have to think of the positive. I had to learn to change myself a little, learn to be flexible, though it is hard. I had to learn to give and take.

There are times where I really hate him and say ‘don’t care’ but when I see that there is injustice done to him, I cannot leave him alone. He is my husband. If he is really in the wrong, I would not have stand up for him. But I can see and I know him well, too well.

Criticism hurts, especially when it is in written form. These words just kept ‘captured’ in your brain, your photographic memory. Life is never the same after criticism was being made. All dreams and hope were smashed. All self-esteem were lost. Why some people can get depress and why some people can get mental illness? All because of pressures from the surrounding people. Make this place a better place to live in. There is no need to kill our own kind. Why got ‘jealous’ of people who want to make money? We are people all with different life, different educational background, different personality, different financial status and so on. We got to be understanding. There are all sorts of people who are not the same at all. Some people are better off than others. Some are more affluent than others. Why make others life more miserable just because you can afford your own domain hosting?

Watch this words – ‘hell’, ‘blind’, and so on. Does it hurt if you are the one? HE is our breadwinner. WE depend on HIM. HE has a lot of pressure and stress too. So do I. Everyone got their own roles to play in this society. Children have their own studies and their life. It is so stressful. Everything is talking about speed and quality. Do you think that what happens to HIM does not affect me? What affects me do not affect the children? This chain reaction can be deadly. One person’s act can lead to a number of miseries. I do not hope to elaborate more on what exactly happen. What I said is true and I hope that time will heal WHOEVER wounds. I am not hurt because I am not the targeted victim. However, I had to face subsequent effect of it. Can there be happiness when such things happen in the family? I just hope that by sharing this experience, people are aware that criticism can hurt people. Life is never the same for all people in this world. I hope these people will not make anymore hurtful remarks AT PEOPLE again. It just pains my heart to see people suffer in pain quietly in front of me.