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I’m A Mom
By Peace | April 23, 2009
Dumex I’m A Mom Contest
Living With HOPE
This is another contest I had participated. I would had never bother to participate this sort of contest. But this is really my first time ‘actively’ participating in some “HOPE” programme… Win a not, at least I tried.
Please remember to vote for me/view my photo at Huggies: http://www.huggies.com.sg/photo_contest_v2/gallery.aspx?id=11963
Dumex Contest
To all the mums, from now (22 April ) till 5 May 2009, you can stand a chance to win $100 Tung Lok Group Dining Voucher.
How to participate:
Three simple steps to submit an entry:
1. Fill in your personal particulars;
2. Upload your photo;
3. Beginning with “I’m a Mom”, describe in no more than 50 words what being a mom means to you. Your caption could be about how motherhood has changed your view of life, your priorities or your relationship with others– every motherhood journey is unique, so share with us in your own words.
Winning Entries and Awardees
* One entry will be selected daily as a winner through a random balloting basis from 23 April to 6 May 2009.
* Winners will receive a dinner voucher worth S$100.
* Daily winners will be published on http://imamom.dumex.com.sg at 1.00 am and notified on the day after the announcement via phone.
* Prizes to be self-collected from Dumex Singapore Office.
* The dinner voucher is non-transferable and non-convertible to cash.
Did I just Blink my Eyes?
I cannot believe that I am a mum of three. Years back I was a little girl… and now I am a woman with more roles than before: a mum, a daughter, a sister, a daughter-in-law and a wife. The job I do is ‘Chap-pa-lang’ (bao-kao-liao)= comprising everything — housekeeping, parenting, working, servicing, chef, etc. But no salary.
Being Cared For
Before marriage, you have all the care and all the concern from our parents. Mother cooked for you, mother washed laundry for you, and mother listened to you.
Caring for People
After marriage, you have to care for your husband, you have to care for your children, you have to cook for the family, wash everything for the family and who would listen to you? Who would cook for you and served you the way your mother served you? Who would care for you as much as your mother has care for you?
Baby In You
Who would understand the pain of pregnancy and childbirth unless you go through it. My mother had 4 pregnancies. This is even tougher than me. I cannot imagine my grandmother, and perhaps great-grandmother also, who had more than 10 kids last time. But they managed to survive, raising all the kids also… But we see in most cases, when wife is pregnant, the husband went astray. When the wife is busy looking after babies and toddlers, the husband is fooling around. This is still a common scenario now. Is this how ‘educated men’ should behave?
Woman need to carry baby, look after babies, and in the end, the “BIG BABY” too…. In this modern society, where you want both partners to work, then you ought to learn to ‘behave’ and ought to know how to be a ‘grown’ adult, be a responsible person. Men who are known to undergo National Service, and yet, this is what they are doing in the society — indirectly destroying their home….. is this what National Service is all about?
Then You Remember
You remember your mother’s words. “Next time you will understand.” “You will understand next time when you become mother.” “Open your eyes when you get married next time.” “Next time you would know what is suffering.” …. How true are those words. Those words are just words I heard from her mouth, but they did not mean anything, merely words. No imprints in my heart. But every word recalled now, it left deep imprints in my heart, with images flashing to support those words…
Lessons To Be Learned
My mother never goes to school. My father’s education is not high. But there are so much to be learned from them. Though some people are ‘educated’ they are not really ‘learned’. There is more than just grades when school is concerned. In Singapore, almost everyone goes to school now. And there are so many tertiary students, diploma and even degree holders. Every Singaporean has such high qualification. But are they really ‘educated’ or are they merely ‘tak te chek’ (study pig books)?
I have not repaid my mother nor my father. In fact, she is still ‘looking after’ me. What a disgrace. This is definitely not what I want. But this is destiny. Or is it fate?
Topics: Family, home, Money, Personal, school, Singapore, View All | 1 Comment »
May 26th, 2009 at 3:55 pm
You are not alone, I am just like u. kids and home and all u are going thru. I hv 4 kids, mind u. Unbearable at times. Hope we can be frnds and share more about our life that no others seems to understand.